爱一个人真的那么难吗？

连和她说话的勇气都没有的我，上个星期五我突然和她说话...一开

口就约她一起出去吃东西，可是她因为要考试所以不答应我(毕业

考)，而我就说下一次我再约你...可以吗?她就点头...就是这样，

而我就连续5~6天没有和她说话了，又回复了以前的我了:tears:

(我很想和她说说话，可是我是那种很安静的男人...找不

到话题聊)各位大哥哥大姐姐可以教教我吗？Please > <"

[ Last edited by Heartz on 2005-9-7 at 07:00 PM ]

I was quite a quiet boy when I was around 14 years old,especially I grown up in Boys' School. But anyhow,I realise that saying nothing will just bury yourself deeper into your own world. Then when I was 15, I started to be really active in Inter-school activities, then I get my first girlfriend when I turn 17. Man, it took me 9 months to get her heart.

The trick is you have to seize every single chance to talk to the girl. Do you really know this girl that you like well enough? If not,you are just doomed to failure! Make sure you know her best friends and gain their support, because they must know your intention and they have the best information available on Earth.

To quit to be so silent, tell yourself everytime you see her. "If I don't say or do anything, I will never win her heart!" Nothing will go wrong if you turn to be little aggressive to talk to her, anything at all as long as you know what she likes. But never pretend you share the same interest as herself if you are not, because sooner or later she will find out you know nothing about her interest as she must know more than you do.

Ok, just try to get the mindset. You can NEVER feel bad or losing face if she reject to date with you, you have to be aggressive.

In the last 10 years I have been really aggressive, now I am getting married the end of this month. During the last 10 years, I only failed once to impress a girl because for her I am not rich enough. lol. :patpat:

Okay, if you need any advice, send me a PM then I will try to help you to gain some higher ground.

Good luck.